Are You Ready To Find The One?

It could happen to the best of us. There might have been times when you had a whole series of dates but none of them seemed to be working out. It could be your stars. However, there times when you overlooked some important things out there. By being eager for love doesn’t mean that you can keep your heart open for just about any experience. If you are unable to make up your mind as to what exactly you are looking out for, given below are some dilemmas that many people face. If you happen to be one of the many people who face this day after day, you can change your outlook towards certain things. So the next time a potential partner walks your way, you are sure to identify him or her instantly.

Problem: You don’t feel immediate sparks.
Solution: Stop thinking about love for a while and make use of the “friend” filter.

Whenever people go on a date, they mostly look for a mind blowing romantic chemistry, and when they are unable to feel it, they think the date is a total misuse of time. However, that is not true!

According to Laurie Helgoe, Ph.D., creator of Wakingdesire.com and author of The Boomer’s Guide to Dating (Again), giving someone a strong negative reaction is different from giving an unsure or neutral reaction, as the latter could possibly lead to chemistry. If you instantly shut the door you will never be able to find out if the other was on the verge of becoming a romantic partner.

It is all very simple. All you have to do is use the friend filter on the next date, rather than using the ‘romantic’ filter that measures the love-at-first sight rapport. So, when you talk to someone new at a cocktail party, be more keen on looking for things you have in common rather than in which aspect are you two different in. According to Laurie Helgoe, employing the friendship quotient in this equation can ease the pressure off you by learning more about the opposite person. The more you have in common, the better are your chances of developing chemistry down the line.

Problem: Your date looks great only on paper.
Solution: Concentrate on your feeling in opposition to the date’s résumé.

It is good for a start to get a date with good qualities. However, chemistry isn’t all about getting someone you end up adoring or think can be an excellent life partner. It is more about how YOU feel when you are with that person.